We are all here because we are dealing with one of life’s greatest challenges and a caring, kind and supportive attitude is everything. This group is built on my own belief that “all learning is enhanced when taking place in an emotionally safe environment”.
As the creator and caretaker of this group I can chose to mute members and remove members who are impolite to others and chose to project their own value judgements onto other group members.
A) Calling someone ‘nuts’ or even their personal approach to their healing ‘nuts’ , is a negative projection of your values onto another, and this will earn you 1 strike; 3 strikes and you’re mute.
B) Telling someone that you think their personal approach to their healing is like signing their death certificate is also a projection that cultivates the feelings of fear and will earn at least 1 more strike; remember 3 strikes and you’re mute.
I know that people only project such judgements and fear onto other members because they are terribly passionate about this subject of cancer and this passionate attitude has them forget to respect the autonomy of their fellow human beings. If any of us had all the answers to cancer we wouldn’t all be here, and we all come to this group at different stages of learning and in our very unique human forms.
To support another group member to grow their knowledge towards a topic that you believe will support them on their journey please keep in mind these 3 things:
1) Usingfear tactics or impolite negative judgement to express yourself is not welcome in this group and if you are not mindful about how you express your passionate responses within this group forum you will risk being muted and or removed.
A more mindful response to: hearing someone share an approach that you think is ‘nuts’:
Respectfully express your own understanding that might be in contrast to theirs, without attempting to be right and make them wrong. This allows the other person the best opportunity to learn from what you present. Our curious and open (to learning) areas of their brain get very easily shut-down by the older part of the brain that thinks it has to take care of our emotional safety. It is, sadly, just how we are wired at this point in our evolution.
So by taking a judgement free approach we provide the other person the opportunity to use their whole brain to take in more learning, thus increasing the chances of them expanding and evolving of their approach to healing through the participation in this group..
Rather than saying…”Anyone who follows this protocol is nuts”… You might say something like…
“I see it differently (and present your research findings and experience)….”
” Wow, that’s so different from how I see this and I’d love you to read this article so we discusses it at some point ( and share your article) .”
2) Besides researching how to heal cancer this might be an opportunity to research how you can say what you mean to others in a way that others will enjoy hearing. It is an important life skill that will no doubt provide your life with more harmony. meaning and value. Here’s a link to great resource for learning how to say what you mean, minus the fear and judgement
3) Please only share your experience rather than giving advice, unless it is your profession and you are qualified to to give advice.
If you are qualified to give advice and decide to do so, please make sure your Facebook profile clearly states your title and qualifications.
Would you be willing to consider making a small monthly contribution towards the sustainability of this support group?
Conversation Threads Within Threads
You can chose to reply to another member’s comment within an existing conversation thread and your reply will be nested within that thread within the thread, making this specific branch of conversation on this thread topic easy to follow.
For example within the existing thread for the re-purposed drug called Fenbendazole their could be a 20+ replies to one comment made by a member that mentioned one aspect of the drug.
However, when you are wanting to start a fresh conversation thread within an existing thread. For example within the existing thread for the re-purposed drug called Fenbendazole I could start my own conversation that perhaps asks the group members what dosage they take. In this instance I do not reply to the last person’s comment within the thread, but instead I comment on the Fenbendazole thread image itself. This is how I create my own conversation thread within the existing thread.
When possible I encourage you to write a line or two about what inspired you to share the article